A Few Tips on Marriage

 I am going to take a break from my standard apologetic topics and talk about something that is really important: Marriage! Since I’ve done a lot of ministry to college students, the marriage topic does come up at times. So while I have been married 17 years this August, and while there are many more issues to mention here,  I wanted to share three tips that I think everyone should consider before getting married.

#1: Marriage is not about your own personal happiness: Of course, this goes against everything our Western culture teaches. But as Christians, if you go into a marriage thinking the sole purpose of marriage is about your own happiness, then you’re mistaken. Now having said that, this doesn’t mean there is no such thing as a happy marriage. They do exist. But my point is that I see many, many, people assuming marriage is all about them and their personal happiness.  However, marriage is about covenant and  we need to keep the big picture before us. Hence, God is the center of it and it does matter what He thinks!

#2: Marriage is about getting your needs met: No, wrong again. If one or both spouses think the other spouse can meet all their needs, the marriage is doomed. This means both partners will be mature enough to understand that God is the only one who can meet all their needs. Are both partners committed  disciples of Jesus? Do they find satisfaction in God? To look for any human to meet every single need is just unrealistic.

#3: What kind of love do you need in a marriage?

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;  it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” –1 Cor.13: 4-7.

My advice study these verses carefully. Meditate on them. This will be the kind of love you will need for your marriage. So guess what? Love is more than just a feeling!


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